Monday, June 27, 2005

Sex & Love ; Marriages

PS: I have no particular intentions to offend anybody. If you do not have an open mind, kindly skip this entry and read something else, something happier. Maybe xiaxue.blogspot.com or limbueytor.com or something else for today.

It has always been in the mindset of most people that sex equates to love. We were taught this when we were young. We relate kissing scenes to love, when obviously the next part usually ends up on the bed. That's when we were little kids who had practically zilch to no understanding of Sex & Love.

However,
because I am already 17 this year,
because I think I am already old enough to think for myself,
because I possess enough testerones and finally,
because I am no longer a kid,

I am going to explore the difference between Sex & Love, and no longer remain nonchalant about it all.

The human body is structured in way that puberty and sexual education appears to conincide, whether you like it or not. For some, including myself, I never knew how the actual action and process of sexual intercourse went about until I was about of 14 years of age. I learnt it IN school, not that I learnt it BECAUSE of school. The teachers of my sexual education were mainly my classmates and friends, as well as pornographic movies which we deeply explored back in those days. Talk about Singapore being an vibrant city full of Arts when simple facts of life have to be taught this way.

I'm risking my fucking skin here to comment about this very sensitive question. I'm not trying to preach here, but mainly because I cannot tolerate this nonsensical bullshit about Sex = Love. To me, Sex is a declaration of possession. Not love. Probably the possession of your sex-partner is fueled by love, romance and all that bullshit, BUT never is sexual intercourse an action of love. In this case, I agree with Asians more than the Westerners.

Asians have always known to be 'conservative' and thus, do not usually include sexual intercourse as an expression of love.
Westerners on the othe rhand, are always known to be 'liberal', and usually include sexual intercourse as an expression of love.

No really, the dumbasses here appear to be Westerners. Either that or Western Men have really good deceptive methods of tricking women into bed. Such is the sad, but true mindsets that have been engraved on, like tattoos that never disappear. What my teacher call 'Mind Forg'd Mannacles'.

I do not see how and why Sex should be an outlet for passion, romance and more importantly, love. They are totally unrelated issues. Sex is merely sticking your fucking penis into the woman, and both parties feel sexually aroused and excited. Pleasure arises from the act of sexual intercourse, not love. You don't love the other party more because of sex, you merely THINK you fucking do but apparently that isn't true at all. Don't live in self-denial, its the addiction you are strongly engulfed with, by this word called 'Lust', not 'Love'.

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Why also, do people regard marriages as fairy tales which and deem their opposite partner as 'The One'? My apologies for destroying your beautiful dreams of the future, but has it ever occured to you that marriage is merely a mature form of the 'Boy-Girl Relationships' or 'BGR' of today?

What makes you so sure that you won't get sick of your partner after years of marriage?
What makes you so sure that you can stick to every single vow you "solemnly" swore during marriage oaths?
What makes you so sure that you have seen all that you needed to see in your fiancee/fiance?
What makes you so sure that both of you know each other well enough to get married?

WHAT MAKES YOU SO SURE YOU HAVE FOUND THE ONE???

Because both of you have been together for 6 years and you think that living together for another 60 years wouldn't make much of a difference?
Because both of you are really serious about each other and think that 'I am old enough, and fucking serious enough to know what I'm doing'.
Because both of you went through so many things that you just cannot seem to understand what's more to your partner?
Because both of you can recite your partner's favourite food, habits, behavious, and most importantly, you know what to expect from him/her?

No really, all of these are what I call mere occurrences.

oc·cur·rence (-kûrns)
n.

1. The action, fact, or instance of occurring.
2. Something that takes place.

See what I mean?

They are all issues that speak of THAT PARTICULAR INSTANCE. Because you think that its right AT THAT TIME, so you do it. Hell... You are so wrong.

But why then, do people get married?

Simply because,
They are resigned to it. They know marriages aren't exactly that beautiful after all.
Basically, they just give in to the world that they live in, and thus get married.

I'm sad to say that you, my dear friend, are most likely going to be one of the many.

But again marriage can be beautiful, and "perfect", if you think it is.
But again, Ivan firmly believes in compromising.

I think tolerance and compromising solves any barriers that come between two people.
I also think that you, my dear friend, will have a good marriage ahead.

Because really, Ivan wishes all the best to your future endeavours =)

posted@1:35 PM

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